“You have the right to feel how you feel, but the power to change the way you feel.”

-TheFeminineThrone

This is one of our favorite quotes and something that we hope you all take with you throughout your journey. We love this quote because it incorporates the practice of Emotional Intelligence. This is where emotion meets mentality.

Let’s break it down, “You have the right to feel how you feel.” This is pretty straightforward; you are not wrong in feeling whatever it is you are feeling. Whether you feel worried, lazy, upset, or anxious, you are valid in the way you feel toward your own experiences. Feelings are so natural that we often see them as a reflection of who we are. The catch 22 about feelings is how captivating and seductive it is to just fall into a state of “being” regarding those feelings. Especially for feminine energy which is very emotional in nature. Sitting in certain feelings can be problematic because it will result in decision making that does not consider the entire picture or thought of consequence. In other words, feelings hold so much power that it will affect what you say, think, or how you react, even in ways that can possibly go against what you stand for. This is why you should always dissect your emotions. Feelings have the power to give you the strength to help you overcome situations that before seemed impossible. This is where your mentality around feelings has to be developed. The biggest lie we tell ourselves is that we can’t control our emotions. Emotions are derived from our mentality regarding our environment meaning, that changing our perception will change the emotion associated.

The control lies within your mind. Your mind is more powerful than you can possibly imagine. Like liquid, your mind takes the shape of whatever concepts, ideas, thoughts, and beliefs you ascribe to, creating your reality. Meaning that your mind is open to new information and can change by taking on a different concept of any specific matter. Which brings me to the second part of this quote, “you have the power to change the way you feel.” Feelings can be so intense that they seem to overpower logic but nonetheless, you have the ability to change them.

There are three ways that you can go about changing the way you feel, perception, dissecting your feelings, and just pushing past them altogether. Firstly, your perception plays a huge role in the way we view situations and experiences as it shapes the feelings we have around them. For instance, you applied for a job, attended the interview, and then a couple of days later you received an email that you are no longer being considered for the position. Your first reaction is to feel hopeless because you finally thought the search was over. You could go ahead and succumb to this hopelessness and let it affect your future efforts, or you can change your perception of the situation and think, “You know what that must not have been the job that was meant for me and the perfect job is coming my way.” Now you have put yourself in a state of feeling optimistic about the future, therefore, changing the way you feel about the situation. The second way to change how you feel is to understand and break down your feelings, allowing you to get through them because it causes you to think of a solution. For example, I was writing one of the articles for the blog, and I felt overwhelmed by how much detail that needed to go into it. My reaction was to procrastinate which caused me to miss my intended deadline. I was overwhelmed because I did not think I had enough information to be as detailed as I know the topic called for. My solution to this problem was to do more research so that I can be more informed, therefore, releasing me from feeling overwhelmed. The last method is to just push through your feelings and eventually you will get passed them. This is probably the most difficult method because it takes a lot of time and endurance before you feel like that particular feeling is not holding you back. Also you will miss out on the opportunity to learn an emotional development skill that will stick with you forever and get you through those future rough patches.

The thing about life is that we are always going through situations that heighten our emotions and cause us to feel a way. If you succumb to every feeling and allow them to take over your reality, then you will miss out on so many opportunities to be successful in the different aspects of your life. By taking control of your feelings, you give yourself the opportunity to break down obstacles and achieve goals.

Let us know in the comments how you plan to make changes to your mentality regarding feelings.